#CoffeeTalk

I tried looking for you on YouTube, but couldn’t find you. Do you have plans to start a channel at all? I think your segments like Coffee Talk would be great for YouTube.

I literally just had this conversation with my friend Angela. She insists that I need to be using Snapchat and tells me to make a YouTube channel every time we talk. I mayyyy go that route in the future, but I haven’t wrapped my mind around it yet. My motive behind starting this blog was never to be a YouTube sensation LOL. If it will deem helpful for you guys, I’ll definitely consider it.

Have you ever traveled alone? And if so, can you do a post on it?

I’ve flown alone many times, usually meeting a friend somewhere but I’ve never traveled by myself. I have friends that have and would be happy to do a post about do’s and don’ts, how to stay safe and the best places to go all by your lonesome. I encourage you to travel by any means. Don’t wait for a partner.

I’m newly graduated and racked up over $60,000 in student loans while in college. Do you have any advice on paying them back?

As mentioned in this post, live below your means. $60K is a hefty bill, pricier than a lot of our cars. I’d treat it the same way. If you can comfortably afford to, avoid paying the minimum. I’d cut back on other finances and treat my loans like a car note, which is several hundred dollars for most people. Finance them according to how many years you want them paid off in and what you are willing to pay back each month. Realistically, you have a lifetime to pay loans back which is why so many people wait to get started. If you truly can’t afford to pay towards them at all, forbearance is always an option until you can. Student loans are indeed debt, but don’t effect your credit the same way that credit cards, car notes and homes do.

I loved your post on Compromise VS settling. I’ve been single over four years and am no longer at a point in my life where I’m dating casually. I’m ready for my husband!  It’s not that I haven’t come across any good men, but I haven’t had that burning desire to be with any of them. I’m afraid of potentially passing up the one and equally as afraid of settling with any “nice guy”. What’s your two cents on it?

Just because he’s a nice guy doesn’t mean he’s the right guy, period. I believe there are two kinds of lovers – lovers who allow love to develop and lovers who need to identify love before they’ll budge. I’m the latter. I’m well aware that growing to love someone is possible, but that’s not what I’m looking for. I want upfront undeniable love from the beginning, and it’s so worth the wait. When you run into that one undeniable unexplainable connection you’ll be glad you didn’t settle for a luke-warm romance with a nice guy. Life is short man, you deserve to feel butterflies and fireworks. Hold out until it feels right and you’re certain you’ve found what you want.

I’ve been reading your blog since day one and admire how helpful you strive to be. So many women don’t want to share their knowledge because they don’t want other women to get ahead of them. Has sharing what you know ever backfired on you?

I’m a firm believer in knowing that what’s for me will be mine. That’s in business, dating, entrepreneurship and material things. It takes a lot of self awareness and a ton of confidence. I’m in my own lane, so nothing that I share with someone else is going to take away from what’s meant for me. Individuality is everything. I can tell someone everything I know, but they won’t be me – and I’ll never be them. One of my favorite Maya Angelou quotes is “When you learn, teach. When you get, give.” that’s my purpose. If I inspire you, that means the world to me. However, there’s no one in this world that you should want to be more like than your true self. I hope that whatever someone takes from me is used to better them as individuals.

I opened up a small but helpful center in my country Honduras that serves as a clinic/church. I’ve also sponsored about 25 families with a monthly supply of food for a few years now with help of donations of course. I’ve wanted to promote my cause on my social accounts in hopes of people eventually helping with donations of school supplies, money, bibles, whatever helps! My question for you is how did you gain the confidence to promote your brand and follow your dreams? Were you afraid of peoples reaction?

First let me say, what you’re doing is AMAZING. God blesses those who bless others, don’t let up. To answer your question, of course! I was afraid people would categorize me as another girl wasting her time trying to live some Instagram culture fantasy. I was afraid people would read what I had to say and think “girl, shut the hell up”. Ironically, the older I got the more conscious I became of what I was saying because years ago in my Twitter days, I had NO filter. Your brand and your dreams have to mean more to you than what peoples thoughts do. I’ve got to a point now to where I post without regret. People who don’t like it will unfollow, then I really don’t have to worry about what they’re thinking LOL. Once you begin to promote what you love, you’ll begin to attract people who have the same heart as you and who are truly interested in your cause.

Can you do a post on what products you use in your hair and how you normally style it? It’s gorge!

I can certainly do that for you. However, I think that you’ll be utterly unimpressed with how basic my regimen is LOL.

Thank you guys for all the questions! If I didn’t get to you this round, I will next time for sure. As always, feel free to submit your questions via email, Instagram or below. Have a great weekend! xx