Hi, I’m a pretty girl with a lot of Instagram followers and I do not have a sponsor. I don’t know when the sponsor trend became so relevant but I’ll assume it has a lot to do with unemployed Instagram models being able to afford designer shoes and overseas vacations without the financial proof. To be quite frank about it, I’m not mad at ’em. If you’re comfortable dealing with someone you’d rather not disclose to the public in exchange for things you can’t afford, that’s none of my business. I’d actually encourage you to take ’em for everything they’re willing to give. You know the saying “whatever you’re going to be, be a good one”? My sentiments exactly.
I didn’t think much about it until recently, when a stranger with no profile picture commented on a vacation photo of mine suggesting that I “tag my sponsor”. Mind you, this was a trip that I had booked with my very own Chase Sapphire card, thank you very much. It’s implied that a woman doing interesting things without showing you who she’s with must be with an old wrinkly man waiting to cash out his 401K to keep her smiling. Wait a damn minute… What makes it so difficult to believe that women aren’t capable of doing these things for themselves and need a sponsor in the first place?
I’m not the type of person who deals with anyone, male or female, solely based on what I feel they can do for me. I go on a lot of vacations and I post a lot of pictures. No where does it say I have to show you who I’m with, or how I got there. I post photos of myself because I’m posting them on my page where all the photos are of me, doesn’t that make sense? When men post pictures of themselves in someone else’s section in the club drinking bottles that they didn’t pay for wearing their best friends designer belt, do we ask them who sponsored them? Okay then. Don’t let your insecurities expose that you secretly don’t understand how a woman could afford to do the things that you can’t by assuming that someone is funding her lifestyle.
FYI – it’s pretty offensive for you to suggest that a woman has someone that she’s too ashamed to tag paying for the things she does without even considering all the sacrifices she’s had to make to be able to do it for herself. Women don’t have to identify who joined them courtside at a ball game or how they’re able to afford a Mercedes. Quit insinuating that women aren’t capable of affording these things for themselves because they’re not open to letting you into every detail of how they live their lives. All of the women that I know can pay their own car notes, buy their own purses and book their own trips but ironically we’re always asked “what do you do?” – we make a way to do the things that we want.
Hi, I’m a pretty girl with a lot of Instagram followers and I do not have a sponsor. What I do have, is a college degree, a corporate job, a bank account, a phenomenal credit score, oh… And the will to do whatever the hell I want to without having to provide proof of payment to the public. Do you know how hard I’ve had to work so that I wouldn’t have to ever deal with someone “sponsoring” me? Now there’s a penny for your thoughts.
Whole last paragraph, in the same boat. Love this!
I’m glad you enjoyed it Aspen, thank you for reading!
I love it!! I waved my finger and rolled my neck while reading this by the way. Well said!
Thanks boo! That was my exact sentiment while writing it ha! Xo
this is awesome. more power to you, and you know even if you did have a sponsor (pure hypothetical) it’s none of our business. If you work hard, you deserve to do whatever you want with the extra money you have, IMO.
That’s exactly how I feel about it Jerren. But because we expose so much of our lives when we leave particular details out people speculate. Moving on! LOL
Loveeee this article! So true who’s to say I didn’t purchase my own??? Yes, it’s possible. I’m a woman and I take care of my myself… Believe it lol. Thank you for speaking on this topic
SERIOUSLY! Hellooooo, I go to work and get a paycheck clowns! Haha
Get ’em Courtney!! #sponsorfree
It’s a sad world we live in when every move a woman makes, it is assumed that there is a man funding it. Or that every woman wants to sell herself for some damn shoes and handbags!
Keep doing what you do – living well!!
I knew you would feel me Paula, it’s not that deep! You keep doing the same 😉
Every word in that order honey.
Mmmhmmm, gotta stand up for us boss babes.
Now that’s what I’m talking about LOLOL
You crack me up, Pat! LOL
Where is the LOVE button!
I could not have said it better myself!
Thank you for reading Niecy! <3
Loved loved loved! Great read! Love your writing style
Thank you so much! I hope you keep reading <3
YESSSSSS, omg. You’re amazing! I’m officially hooked.
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THIS. I need to print copies and share with the public. Well said. Well said!!!
I should create a “No Sponsor” march huh? LOL! Thank you for reading hun! <3