I have few friends for good reason. I’m not opposed to making new ones, nor do I necessarily feel like I need to. My relationships are always built with Quality > Quantity in mind. I don’t require much from my friends other than for them to be who they are because the choice of friendship is mine at the end of the day. I’m a firm believer of attracting what you are, and as you grow, you develop the relationships necessary to fulfill whatever you need at that time. As for me, I’ve always had a small circle that changed as needed. Not because I feel friendships have time limits, but because I know that all of the friends I’ve had served different purposes for me. Just as snakes shed the skin they’re in once they outgrow it, you will need you leave friends that no longer fit behind.
Over the years I’ve had several friendships fizzle out. I’m thankful to say that none of them ended over anything critical, they just happened to well… end. Like any other teenage girl coming into adulthood, I had had friends that would support my stupid decisions instead of correct me, and friends that were always ready to have a good time, which was great for where I was at that point in life. I had friends that started families early and some that were so unhappy with themselves that they couldn’t acknowledge the good in others. I reached a point where I truly began seeking friends who would water me, even if it was only three or four. People I considered friends effortlessly fell like petals from a flower that was no longer alive, while I continued to bloom. And that’s perfectly OK. I reached a place where I needed friends who would challenge me with good intentions, be willing to disagree when I’m wrong, have some sound advice to give and teach me a thing or two. You will find exactly what you desire. I became so at peace with myself that I no longer needed the commotion that came with unstable friendships. It served no purpose in my long-term goals.
Like many things in life that we consume; medicine, dairy, fruit; it’s very likely some of your friendships will expire too. Once they spoil, they’re less effective or even potentially harmful. Different levels of your life will require different friends that will nurture the person you are along with who you will become. When you’re younger, you pick food based off taste without considering what it will do to you. You don’t mind taking in things you deem delicious, even though they’re not the best for you. As you get older (and wiser), those foods have a different effect on you. They don’t fulfill you the same, you don’t feel as good when you eat them and they even take a toll on your health. Pick your friends like you’d pick your food. Both should provide you sources of nourishment. There will be times where you need to increase your confidence intake, or up your dosage of determination or adventure. Seek those who have what you need in excess and stray from those who drain what you don’t have enough of.
In life peoples paths cross, take turns, and lead in different directions. Everyone is not meant to come where you are going. Yes, it’s unfortunate but necessary. Which of your relationships have a shelf life?