I attribute a huge amount of the woman that I am today to Sex And The City. It may sound ridiculous, but I learned some legitimate life lessons that shaped the idea of what I wanted my life to be like and exactly how I wanted it to look. I can remember a significant amount of time where I felt like I didn’t even need friends thanks to Charlotte, Carrie, Samantha and Miranda. There was an episode for every possible womanhood scenario and coming from where I’m from, I didn’t get to see many women like them with my own two eyes too often. What I loved most about Sex And The City was that nothing was left out. The realities of friendships, dating, careers and aspirations were all addressed from four different women’s point of view.
I probably wasn’t any older than 12 with these visions of myself walking down the sidewalk in designer high heels in a big city, sitting in front of a window writing about love on my MacBook just like Carrie, living unapologetically like Samantha, owning a room full of men as the only woman like Miranda, all while being as optimistic as Charlotte. I was certain that my 30-something year old life would consist of being able to meet my girlfriends for lunch, stroll into Barney’s and buy a few things without looking twice at the price (well maybe twice because I’ll always be frugal), be a professional and most importantly be in control of my own life.
Every so often, I have these “aha” moments where I realize I’m doing exactly the things I used to daydream about. I wanted to create a Sex And The City platform specifically for women where conversations about real life were welcome and that’s exactly what I did with The B Werd. I envisioned quickly walking through airports to my next beach destination and now I’m on my second passport. I adored Oprah and wanted the opportunity to take my discussions further as a woman of color, then I was invited to speak publicly on panels and to crowds. At one point, I couldn’t afford to purchase products from some of the brands I’m now getting the chance to partner with, and now they’re willing to pay me to mention them. These were all just ideas to me previously, things that would make me smile at the thought of them. The joy you feel from your ideas is what informs the universe to bring you closer to them.
Vision is such a powerful contribution to your success. More and more I’m beginning to recognize that I’m living a life I created for myself years ago simply because I visualized it (and of course worked my ass off for it). What do you see when you close your eyes and imagine your best life? Is it you 20 pounds lighter? Is it you being flown first class to speak in front of your Alma Mater on women in tech? Is it you smiling at your kids splashing around in a pool because you were able to take them on your first family vacation? One of my favorite Bible verses is Habakkuk 2:2 where The Lord says, “Write this. Write what you see. Write it out in big block letters so that it can be read on the run. This vision-message is a witness pointing to what’s coming. It aches for the coming—it can hardly wait! And it doesn’t lie. If it seems slow in coming, wait. It’s on its way. It will come right on time.”
Today, I want you to get specific with what you see for your life and then slowly work towards making that vision a reality. Start preparing for the visions you had last year, the year before, or even as a child. Those are true desires that deserve to come to pass. Nothing you can imagine for yourself is too unrealistic or too far away, as long as you believe you can obtain even what seems to be too far ahead of you. Get going on your visions.
Do something this week to bring you one-step closer to the life you imagine and have fun while doing it. Happy Monday!