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I obviously know it’s not Monday, but seeing as I’ve been out of the country on vacation, today is technically the Monday of my work week. I apologize for not having content set up for you all while I was gone but I’ve been on overload with work + real life.
My trip to Canada was quite different for me for many reasons. The first being the fact that I was unplugged for the majority of my days, without service in the mountains or lakes. Second, my days were adventurous, I wasn’t just laying around on a beach for eight hours or staying out til three am. Third, while doing things I would normally never do, I came to a realization that my life is perfectly on track and I am exactly where I need to be at this very moment while having exactly what I need to have – and that is an explainable feeling.
A few years ago when I was bravely trying to uncover who I really was, what my purpose was, and how to find true self-fulfillment I read dozens of books, watched dozens of videos and meditated on dozens of podcasts. I was stuck on why it took me five years to graduate instead of four, why a relationship with who I thought was the one didn’t work, why I wasn’t making the amount of money I thought I would with a degree, why I wasn’t doing more when I knew I had monumental potential. Oddly enough, everything I learned led back to one simple idea – there are no mistakes. Everything that is happening to us, is happening for us and the second you can wrap your mind around that, the second you’ll uncover an unshakable peace.
I took every lesson learned and used it to my advantage. Disappointment will never have a permanent residence with me. Every break-up, every job that didn’t work out, every opportunity you wanted that didn’t come full circle has all happened to your advantage. No’s prepare you for your perfectly timed yes, teaching you all the lessons you’ll need to handle what’s meant for you. There are so many things that I’d longed for and told myself I couldn’t wait for when in hind-site, had I gotten them when I’d asked for them I wouldn’t have been ready for them.
When things don’t pan out your way say thank you, because like my Aunt Oprah says “your life is bigger than any one experience”. What you’re dwelling on today likely won’t matter this day next year. Whatever you’ve deemed as failure really isn’t. Consider it a “road closed” sign and get going to find your alternate route because your destination remains the same. What you’re meant to have will be yours no matter how long it takes you to find it, so don’t hold yourself up by standing still. Find your next right move and continue on your path for a purpose-filled life.
Today I know that I’m exactly where I should be, with exactly what I should have. Years ago I used to sit on planes while traveling envisioning myself writing about my experiences, my thoughts and my growth. Last night I was on a flight home writing about those exact things on a platform that I created to share with you all, and have you guys share your lives with me. Trust me when I say what’s meant for you, will be yours.
#Message ! Thank you so much for this post! I was literally in tears this morning, defeated. I chose to relocate to a new state not fully prepared for the move, but made it happen anyway. Well, 2 weeks (and still sleeping on my sister’s couch) later, I made the decision today to return home. Feeling as though I failed. Prior to relocating to the new state I was in a long distance relationship with a man I thought was “the one” even with his many flaws. I moved to be in the same city as him thinking it would make us closer and that I would quickly find a new job. So, I quit my job back home to pursue a new life and moved 8 hours away. Everyone congratulated me on making such a bold decision. I thought I knew what I was doing but as it turns out, I didn’t. The relationship went left and I was only able to find a 2-day temp assignment. This post literally popped up in my email as I was in the middle of a “poor me” session. But as you perfectly stated, my destination stays the same. And I saw that clip of Oprah speaking on this topic. My life is so much more than this one experience. I won’t be defeated. Thank you!! Xoxo
Jamika, thank you so so much for sharing that with me! You’re correct, what you’re going through today doesn’t define you. It’s simply asking you to reroute your GPS. I look forward to hearing how this worked out in your favor in the near future because believe me – the universe is working to get you exactly where you need to be. Keep on pushin’ baby doll! xx
Life became so much easier to navigate through once I realized this. I’ve made certain decisions in my life that resulted in me taking a VERY SCENIC route to some of my goals. LOL! But I can honestly say it was necessary. I needed all that I’ve experienced and learned to help mold and shape me into the person I am now.
Looking back it’s always easier to connect the dots and make sense of our journey. So glad you’ve got that understanding. Thank you for reading Rae!
I’ve followed you since way back in your Twitter days! haha! I always admired how you had such a way with words – i tried to explain it to people because I would always shows things you would post and no one would understand. Whatever, I got you. After you deleted Twitter I finally found you on Instagram and I cannot put into words how excited I am that you started a blog. I love coming on here for inspiration or ideas – you are a beautiful soul that radiates that most amazing energy (even if it is online). Keep doing you baby girl! xoxox.
Thank you so much for your sweet words Mayra! And for the record, I never deleted my Twitter – someone hacked it and deleted it for me LOL they didn’t want me to be great. I’m so glad to hear you’re enjoying it, I hope you keep reading.