When I created The B Werd, I did it solely with women in mind. I craved a platform where women like me could unapologetically express themselves, what they stand for and what they desire out of life and I hope I’m doing a good job with that so far. But, every time a male reader compliments The B Werd, I feel like I’ve gotten a prize. Not because a man’s opinion is any more important to me than a woman’s, but because they’re appreciative of a platform that I never intended for them to enjoy.
A male reader emailed a topic that he wanted not only my thoughts on, but the opinions of who this blog was originally meant for – you ladies. Alpha women have intense personalities, so as much as I try to defend us, I’m well aware that we can be a handful (or two) to deal with.
He wanted my opinion on what characteristics an Alpha Male really consists of, expressing he was dating a woman who felt he didn’t fit the description. Her complaints were that he needed to be more aggressive and he was overly friendly when they were in public together; essentially telling him he wasn’t “bossed up” enough for her preference.
First things first – a “boss” and an “Alpha Male” are in two different lanes. A boss is a title, a person in charge who calls shots. An Alpha Male is naturally a leader, he influences by his own actions without having to tell anyone to do. He doesn’t need to be aggressive, the way he carries himself is enough to declare his dominance.
The Alpha Male’s that have shaped my opinion of what one was were confident men, incredibly comfortable with who they were without being arrogant. They were all passionate about life and were always finding ways to help others, those close to them as well as strangers. Because they gave respect, they got it. They were God fearing, polite, providers for their households, protectors and not easily impressed.
When I close my eyes and compare the two what I see is night and day. Bosses are loud, Alpha Males are quiet. Bosses are flashy, Alpha Males are modest. Bosses are self-centered, Alpha Males are more interested in others. Bosses are looking to get ahead, Alpha Males are looking for ways to bring others up with them.
I realize how social media and entertainment may have skewed women’s views of what characteristics Alpha Males truly possess, but I’m willing to bet that true Alpha Males are not being praised as often on these platforms. Don’t insult the ones we have by telling them they’re not man enough.
If you want a boss, get a job. If you want a man, respect him.
How do you differentiate what characteristics an Alpha Male has?