“I didn’t always know what I wanted to do, but I always knew the kind of woman I wanted to be.” Diane Von Furstenberg
For as long as I can remember, I spent a large portion of my time daydreaming about my future. Authoritatively strutting into a corporate office with a slick ponytail and a pencil skirt to handle business before grabbing a cocktail at an overpriced restaurant then heading home to my stylishly furnished apartment that had floor to ceiling windows. I was always motivated by the desire to have a career and be independent and even as a child, couldn’t wait to become the woman I had always imagined.
I’m continuously inspired by women – strong, independent, fearless women that go after what they want and embrace the things they love. Those are the kind of women that I gravitate towards and prefer to be around, and growing up those were the women I was anxious to imitate. I’ve never had a problem complimenting women either. In fact, I secretly shout “you go girl!” when a boss babe and all her self-assurance pass me by. It doesn’t matter the relation, whether acquainted or strangers, there’s something I adore about a valiant woman.
Around the age of 17 I began making plans for my future and how I imagined it playing out went a little something like this… Go to college, get a degree, begin my career making significantly more than the national average for an entry-level position, and buy my first home. All by 25. With a white Range Rover thrown in there somewhere. Girl, please.
I completed undergrad and began my career almost two years ago and I now realize my dreams of instant gratification were a little… OK, a lot far-fetched. I’m an adult, but I’m constantly reminded that I’m still developing rapidly in my personal and professional life. The timing of my plan may not have been as accurate as I would’ve liked, but I’m okay with that. At some point, we have to shake the idea of where we thought we’d be and enjoy the process of getting there. I don’t mind doing the groundwork to get what I’m worth. When you know where you want to be and where you will eventually land, working for the things you desire becomes more enjoyable and less of a chore. I’m working towards being that woman who I envisioned 20 years ago each and every day and can honestly say I’m living the life that I’ve always wanted, even if it hasn’t come full circle yet. Nothing in nature blooms all year, be patient with yourself.
Knowing the kind of woman you want to be is the bigger picture and holds so much more weight than the everyday details of what you want to do or the things you want to have. Envision the future you want so that you know exactly where you’re headed, then take the necessary steps to get there, even if it’s not within the time frame you imagined. It’s easy to second guess ourselves when things don’t go the way we want, but keep your confidence with you – you’ll need it. Having confidence in what you believe you can attain is so necessary in achieving it. You’ve got to believe it to be true for you.
I’m hoping that sharing my growth, experiences and goals will be beneficial to you, because I plan on tackling it all. Get excited about becoming the woman that you want to be, I know I am.