When I created The B Werd, I did it solely with women in mind. I craved a platform where women like me could unapologetically express themselves, what they stand for and what they desire out of life and I hope I’m doing a good job with that so far. But, every time a male reader compliments The B Werd, I feel like I’ve gotten a prize. Not because a man’s opinion is any more important to me than a woman’s, but because they’re appreciative of a platform that I never intended for them to enjoy.
A male reader emailed a topic that he wanted not only my thoughts on, but the opinions of who this blog was originally meant for – you ladies. Alpha women have intense personalities, so as much as I try to defend us, I’m well aware that we can be a handful (or two) to deal with.
He wanted my opinion on what characteristics an Alpha Male really consists of, expressing he was dating a woman who felt he didn’t fit the description. Her complaints were that he needed to be more aggressive and he was overly friendly when they were in public together; essentially telling him he wasn’t “bossed up” enough for her preference.
First things first – a “boss” and an “Alpha Male” are in two different lanes. A boss is a title, a person in charge who calls shots. An Alpha Male is naturally a leader, he influences by his own actions without having to tell anyone to do. He doesn’t need to be aggressive, the way he carries himself is enough to declare his dominance.
The Alpha Male’s that have shaped my opinion of what one was were confident men, incredibly comfortable with who they were without being arrogant. They were all passionate about life and were always finding ways to help others, those close to them as well as strangers. Because they gave respect, they got it. They were God fearing, polite, providers for their households, protectors and not easily impressed.
When I close my eyes and compare the two what I see is night and day. Bosses are loud, Alpha Males are quiet. Bosses are flashy, Alpha Males are modest. Bosses are self-centered, Alpha Males are more interested in others. Bosses are looking to get ahead, Alpha Males are looking for ways to bring others up with them.
I realize how social media and entertainment may have skewed women’s views of what characteristics Alpha Males truly possess, but I’m willing to bet that true Alpha Males are not being praised as often on these platforms. Don’t insult the ones we have by telling them they’re not man enough.
If you want a boss, get a job. If you want a man, respect him.
How do you differentiate what characteristics an Alpha Male has?
I’ll give you something else to think about … What about us Alpha Bosses? … A Male who portrays dominance in both areas of a Boss and as Alpha male … From my experience it’s virtually impossible to be a successful “Boss” without being a Alpha male … But you can most definitely be a Alpha Male without nesscarily being a boss ..
I think many men are given opportunities to be bosses, but are not Alpha Males. Since Alpha Males are naturally leaders and problem solvers, I think they make the best kind of bosses simply based off of characteristic qualities.
Hey Court!
There are a few characteristics that stand out to me in an Alpha male. These attributes can also mirror a great boss as well. A boss tends to have negative connotations lingering around the word, but it is possible to be able to interchange boss with Alpha male. But who doesn’t love an Alpha male. A man that takes charge when needed, acts quickly when faced with a hard challenge, but more importantly leads naturally while helping the “pack”. I feel an Alpha male takes accountability even when wrong, is fearless, and has a strong sense of loyalty. The Alpha man can stand strong and firm while knowing how to humble himself. They don’t build by tearing others down, which can definitely be a trait of a bad boss. An Alpha man’s choices are well-considered and he leads by strength not fear.
Avid reader,
Cassidy
Cassidy,
Those are some great additions! As always, I love it when you comment. I know you’ll have something valid to say. Thanks boo! xx
you hit the nail on the head with this one girl!!! shout out to all my Alpha Males out there!….
Yes ma’am! Thank you for reading Ashley!
Preach!! An alpha male is the leader of the pack; where he goes, the pack will follow because his reputation as a leader is established. Nice post!!
Thank you Jessica! See, you get it! Lol
Absolutely right! A boss leads with words, an Alpha male leads with actions.
Yup. You’re onto something Miriam. Thank you for reading! xx