“If you want it badly enough, and are willing to make some changes in your life to cause it to happen, you too can take over the world.. or do anything else you really want to do. Yes, you really can have it all. The only things you’ll need to give up are the assumptions, expectations, and the comfort zone that holds you back from greatness.”
Some of my earliest child memories include me being unbelievably outspoken, incredibly hard-headed and extremely compelled to live life on my own terms. To my surprise, not much has changed over the last 25 years. I have never been the type of girl who likes being told what to do. It’s so bad that I could even be about to lift the lid on the trash can to take the bag out, but my mom would say “take the trash out” and suddenly, I don’t want to and damn near physically can’t because she told me to. I want to do things my way, as I see fit and while there are a handful of negatives that come along with that, it’s been beneficial to the life I’ve built for myself.
Do you guys remember those candy bins at grocery stores growing up? The ones you take a piece of candy out of and had what seemed like an optional slot to put coins in? Well, when I was maybe 6, I asked my dad if I could have a piece of candy out of one of those bins and he told me no, so I took one. While he was unloading groceries I walked into the kitchen and pulled it out of my pocket saying “Daddy! Look what I found!”. Subconsciously, that was my way of saying “you told me I couldn’t have it but look at me now! I’ve got it”, even though the reality was that I stole it. I still remember the look on my dad’s face when he turned around and I was holding up that candy like a prize, appalled at how bold I was. Believe me, I paid for that piece of candy in more ways than one but that was my first time actually realizing that I don’t believe in “no”.
There’s no such thing as no to me and there should be no such thing as no to you. Maybe “not right now” but never “no”. Do I work for myself? Not right now. Can I whisk five of my closest friends off to Ibiza to enjoy a day of yachting and champagne? Do I have a custom closet? Not right now. You have to have the audacity to chase what you desire, you have to have the willingness to take bold risks. In this life, we can have whatever we want, of course when we go about the correct way of attaining it and not stealing it from a grocery store. Every now and then people finally realize that they don’t have to experience the world in the way they have been told to. No matter what you’ve been told, no matter what has happened to you, no matter what mistakes you’ve made, you can change the way you live every day of your life. Practice removing words like “no”, “can’t”, and “won’t”. Yes, you can and you will.
Have a great week, xx.
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