For a reason I can’t explain, I think every woman on this planet feels connected to Beyonce and her journey at some level. While scrolling Instagram late Saturday night, I came across the clip and it truly made me reflect. While I can’t resonate to being on radio, or on tour, I feel like I’ve reached a very particular point in my life where I’m finally my own manager. I’ve found myself at a crossroad where I’m re-deciding where I’m headed and what it exactly it is that I’m wanting at this next level.
“The first decision that I had to make as my own manager was, ‘WHAT DO YOU WANT?’. Do you want to be successful at radio? Do you want to kiss asses? Do you want a career? Do you want a successful tour? Do you want to focus on your life? WHAT. DO. YOU. WANT?”
The question she poses is so simple, yet so pivotal. What do we want? That answer is likely ever-changing, making it even more important for us to revisit it often. What I wanted five years ago, or even one year ago looks very differently. If we aren’t frequently determining what exactly it is that we want, we can easily feel lost.
I don’t know about you all, but I’ve felt lost in a few different directions this year. The best way I can describe it is visually (visual learner here, hi!), I see myself floating in a huge body of water, where I can’t see any land. The water isn’t choppy and the float is peaceful, so I feel safe. However, there is a huge uncertainty of where I’m headed, or when it will be that I arrive, or even what it’s going to look like when I get to where I’m going. I’m not used to not being in control of every aspect of my life. While I’m glad that 2020 has required me to relinquish some of that control, I want to do my part in acting on what I know I can.
What is it that you want and why? Do you want to build a business where you can work from home full-time? Do you want to connect with and pour into other women? Do you want to disconnect more often and allow yourself to be present as a wife or mother? Now is the perfect time to reconsider exactly what it is what we want while determining, WHY.
Redefining what I’m wanting ultimately helps me create actionable steps to getting to the destination I’m desiring. One I determine what I want, I prioritize them in order of importance to know how to commit my time and effort. When I determine what I want most, I can fit the other things in around that. It’s clear to me what I value and what I really want is to be a present and powerful force to my family which requires me to be mentally, physically and emotionally healthy, a way-maker for women of color wanting to live full lives, and last but not least, wealthy so that I have freedom and flexibility to always do what I want, when I want.
Before you begin the week next week, I encourage you to take some time out to really reflect and ask yourself, what is it that you want? Deeply. Not a vacation, or a morning to sleep in – but big picture. And once you can see it, let’s create a plan on how we’re going to get there. If you’re comfortable, share what you’re really wanting in the comments below. We’ve got great things in store ahead of us!