Ayesha Curry recently had some controversial tweets regarding what she prefers to wear, in comparison to what other women prefer not to – and that’s great. Speak your mind girl! It’s always refreshing to see women who are comfortable exactly how they are, and don’t feel pressured to mimic what they’re constantly seeing around them. However, I was annoyed with the opportunity that a lot of people took to express what they felt was appropriate behavior for women, specifically men.
I saw this particular meme one too many times that read “in a world full of Kardashians, be Ayesha Curry” and the first thing that came to my mind is… WHY? Especially when it’s coming from the same men who lust over women that look like they belong in the Kardashian family. You know, the men who dedicate #WCW’s to half naked Instagram models but are quick to tell women that they know what and who they need to be more like. It’s not a man’s job to tell you who to be.
In a world full of people let me tell you who you should be, whoever the hell you want! Ayesha Curry is married to a man who adores her. Kim Kardashian is married to a man who adores her, so what’s the difference between the two? Preference. People get way too comfortable telling us how to be women; what you should and shouldn’t do, how you should and shouldn’t dress, what you should and shouldn’t say, what’s too much make-up and what isn’t enough, but that’s all their preference. There’s no wrong way to be a woman and while I myself have a preference on what I think is appropriate, opinions are not facts and someone’s personal views on what characteristics they feel you should possess doesn’t lower your quality. As a woman who’s figured life out through trial, error and a lot of common sense, who do you trust more than you? Nobody. So why would you let anyone change what you’re comfortable doing?
Ayesha Curry may like to cover up, but we don’t see North West running around in Kanye’s interviews do we? That’s preference. Just like women get subconsciously allured by men into feeling as if they need to act a certain way in order to be wanted, they also get tempted to do certain things based off of what other women who seem wanted are doing. What you’re doing isn’t as important as why you’re doing it. Whether you’re pursuing a college degree or whether you’re showing off your nipple rings; why are you doing it? Pull back the layers of your subconscious reasoning and if the answer is genuinely because you want to, then I’m all for it. If you like the woman you see when you look in the mirror, then you’re doing a job well done.
Do you, boo. xx.
Greeeeeat read!! As long as people are letting others dictate what’s deemed as right versus wrong in their life, they won’t be able to embrace their true self or their own individuality. I’m about to share this on FB, there are so many people who would benefit from reading your point of view on this!!
Thanks for posting, Courtney.
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You have no idea, I recently had a conversation about how many years women wander around lost because of what people told them who they should be. By the time they’re finally OK being themselves they’re 35. Not us though! LOL Thanks for always reading babe <3
Yaaaassssss great read because I like to be classy and assy just depending on the day
You have me cracking up because I read that in your voice! Thanks for reading babe! <3
Amen. That was great!
Thank you for reading Dez! I’m glad that you enjoyed it.
As always this was a great read.
Keep them coming you’re amazing!!
Thank you so much Erica! I’ll keep them coming for sure, I’ve got a lot to say 😉
Opinions are NOT facts. Bloop.
Heyyyyy Shan! Had to tell ’em one time haha
This was well said my friend! I just wish others knew their worth and expected more from themselves. Rather someone’s opinion of who they should be or what they should do! Let me tell you I’m just now getting to a place where I feel comfortable be ME without hurting anyone’s feelings. So thanks for this read!
It takes us a while to get there but once we do, there’s no turning back. I’m so glad you’re there now and thank you for always reading <3
This was a great read! I was just discussing this with my friends the other day.
I’m glad you enjoyed it Marcie! I hope you share it with your friends too 😉
Yessssssss I’m glad I’m not the only one that feels this way . Great blog girl! Keep it going.
Great Article! Loved it.
Thank you for reading Cherrelle! I’m so glad you enjoyed it.
I’m late to the article but your blogs are apart of my morning read along with my devotion, and I’m completely inspired. Thank God for your talents!
Brittany I’m SO happy to hear that! At the end of the day, I’m just doing what I feel like I’m supposed to be but it really reiterates that I’m doing the right thing by getting comments like these. Thank you for reading! Xo