Ayesha Curry recently had some controversial tweets regarding what she prefers to wear, in comparison to what other women prefer not to – and that’s great. Speak your mind girl! It’s always refreshing to see women who are comfortable exactly how they are, and don’t feel pressured to mimic what they’re constantly seeing around them. However, I was annoyed with the opportunity that a lot of people took to express what they felt was appropriate behavior for women, specifically men.
I saw this particular meme one too many times that read “in a world full of Kardashians, be Ayesha Curry” and the first thing that came to my mind is… WHY? Especially when it’s coming from the same men who lust over women that look like they belong in the Kardashian family. You know, the men who dedicate #WCW’s to half naked Instagram models but are quick to tell women that they know what and who they need to be more like. It’s not a man’s job to tell you who to be.
In a world full of people let me tell you who you should be, whoever the hell you want! Ayesha Curry is married to a man who adores her. Kim Kardashian is married to a man who adores her, so what’s the difference between the two? Preference. People get way too comfortable telling us how to be women; what you should and shouldn’t do, how you should and shouldn’t dress, what you should and shouldn’t say, what’s too much make-up and what isn’t enough, but that’s all their preference. There’s no wrong way to be a woman and while I myself have a preference on what I think is appropriate, opinions are not facts and someone’s personal views on what characteristics they feel you should possess doesn’t lower your quality. As a woman who’s figured life out through trial, error and a lot of common sense, who do you trust more than you? Nobody. So why would you let anyone change what you’re comfortable doing?
Ayesha Curry may like to cover up, but we don’t see North West running around in Kanye’s interviews do we? That’s preference. Just like women get subconsciously allured by men into feeling as if they need to act a certain way in order to be wanted, they also get tempted to do certain things based off of what other women who seem wanted are doing. What you’re doing isn’t as important as why you’re doing it. Whether you’re pursuing a college degree or whether you’re showing off your nipple rings; why are you doing it? Pull back the layers of your subconscious reasoning and if the answer is genuinely because you want to, then I’m all for it. If you like the woman you see when you look in the mirror, then you’re doing a job well done.
Do you, boo. xx.