I celebrated my three month anniversary since the launching of The B Werd at the beginning of this month. Not because three months is a significant amount of time, but because I like to celebrate even the smallest accomplishments. I think 90 days is plenty of time to get a good feel for what you’ve gotten yourself into and let me be clear, I’ve gone through a wave of emotions since then regarding the brand that I’m building and how much work and time it really takes. I’ve never been afraid of hard work. In fact, I’m one of those people who doesn’t feel like they’re doing enough if they’re not on the run and their plate isn’t slightly overflowing. I find a strange satisfaction in getting things done.
The main reason why I was so hesitant (AKA why I dragged my feet for a year) in starting The B Werd was because I’m afraid of commitment. There…. I said it. In many aspects, not just aspirations and relationships. I’ve never even considered coloring my hair because I can’t commit to that type of change. I’m not comfortable half assing anything; and that’s a gift and a curse. While I work hard and take things that I’m committed to seriously, if I can’t commit to them I don’t deal with them at all. Instead of jumping into things and trying them, I’m very selective with what I pursue. I won’t play unless I know that I will win and if there’s a chance I might not, I don’t want to play. So committing to this site and been… Interesting.
More than anything, you guys have been immeasurably supportive and that in itself lets me know that I’m more than capable of keeping this thing going. The comments, messages, and emails I receive from all of you truly reaffirms that I’m doing exactly what I’m meant to. However, I want to keep it real with y’all; when people ask me how blogging is going, my first thought is “it is such a force!“. Crazy right?
When I say blogging is a force, what I mean is that I’ve never had to force myself to stay up past my bedtime to make sure I have content ready to go for the next day. I’ve never had to force myself to get dressed and out of the house so that I can have Style Guide photos to post or force my family and friends to stop whatever they’re enjoying to take my photo. I’ve never had to force myself to post so consistently on Instagram or stage photos of my arm holding a cup of coffee to show off a bracelet all for brand promotion. A complete force. But I do realize now it comes with the territory.
Working a corporate job in PR doesn’t always necessarily allow me a 9-5, 8 hour a day schedule. Some mornings I have a 7 a.m. breakfast and some evenings I have events that last until 10 p.m. Other nights I’ll have one too many glasses of wine at happy hour to balance it all and will knock out before I can even open my laptop. Just being honest… So squeezing in scheduling, editing, content creation and photos isn’t easy. I tip my hat to all bloggers. It looks effortless but it’s far from it.
People have consistently told me that I’ve inspired them to start the blog that they’ve been thinking about, and that’s really awesome. You should. I want to encourage you to take the first step to begin anything you’ve been wanting to pursue, because you can and if you really want to, you will! But please note, you will have to force yourself to do a lot of things that you don’t feel like or want to, and you will thank yourself that you did. What I’ve found is, accomplishments come with a lot of forced actions, never gracefully. Force yourself to make those uncomfortable phone calls, force yourself to reach out to people about opportunities you’d like to pursue or great ideas you have, even if you may not get a reply. Force yourself to stick to the schedule you set when you want to sleep an extra hour. Force it until you’re a force that can’t be reckoned with.
Photos: @FarranManuel
This is great!! I’ve wrestled with the idea of blogging for quite some time and mostly because I can’t commit!! This particular blog has been very encouraging. I wish you all the best and thank you for sharing a piece of yourself with your audience.
Thank you for reading Brooke, and thank you even more for the well wishes. Like I said, you can definitely do it.. Just make sure that you really do! Because it’s a lot to fight through when you really just don’t feel like it LOL best of luck <3
Love this and I especially love your transparency. At times people get this false idea that things come easy and natural when in fact it is HARD WORK! Congrats on your first 90 days. I’ve truly enjoyed the content thus far. 🙂
Thank you so much for your support, Kris! It’s far from easy, it’s a hassle, a headache and a lot of lost time – but certainly worth it in the long run. Cheers to 90 more days, God willing LOL!
I love this post!! the commitment was and still is my biggest challenge! You aren’t the only one, girl! Your blog is great!!!! 🙂
Believe me, there are days where I get so busy I tell myself “forget this damn blog”, but it’s mine now so I can’t. Thank you for your support doll, I appreciate it! <3
Before I was tagged in your Instagram account I was so close to giving all of this up. I love to write but sometimes I get discouraged. But your blog is very inspiring. You just gained a new reader ☺️.
We all get discouraged, believe me – but it’s not enough to give up on what we really want for ourselves. Just push through, get it done! If it’s your passion then do it for you, not for anyone else. I’m so happy to hear you enjoyed this read, I hope to inspire you a million times over! Xo
This post is everything! I’ve been blogging for a while now and I still struggle with the “force” of it all. It’s a huge balance act for me and consistency is constantly suffering. Time to get it back in gear. Btw, I love these photos!
I think consistency is key to anything we want to truly dive into. Even if you commit to a post once a week, make sure you keep your word about posting once a week. For yourself, not anyone else. Thank you for reading! I hope that you continue <3
This was a beautiful read!!! “Force yourself to stick to the schedule you set when you want to sleep an extra hour. Force it until you’re a force that can’t be reckoned with.” That statement punched me in the gut! Keep em coming Brand!
Thank you so much Keenan! If we don’t force ourselves to do the things we don’t want to do we really would never accomplish anything. Keep on pushin’! <3
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I felt like you were speaking directly to me.
I clearly need to force myself to shut this laptop and do some much needed planning, then FORCE myself to put it into action.
That’s because I was! LOL just get it done. It takes a lot of consistency and initiative, but I promise you’ll thank yourself in the long-run. Thank you for reading Melinda!
This right here hit home, because i’ve recently started a collaboration blog and when people ask me i say “a lot of work” for the exact reasons you did above. continue to strive and win!
Xo
crystal Chanelle
It really is! You don’t fully understand it until you start doing it. Don’t let up, keep going!
You spoke a WERD right there!!! I definitely have commitment issues, and sometimes I can be easily discouraged by the simplest things. However, I must push through. It won’t be easy, but it’s surely worth it! Thanks for the reminder!!
Keep up the good work!
xoxo
Discouragement does such a good job keeping us where we’re at, but this isn’t where we’re meant to stay. Here’s to hoping you keep at whatever it is that you really want to do. I’ll be here to cheer you on along the way! xo
I found your blog today and I can’t stop reading. I love it!!! I’ve been wanting to start a blog but am so discouraged. Not sure if people would even care but I prayed about this last night and here I am reading The B Werd!
I love, love, love getting comments like this. Thank you so much for the compliments! If a blog is something you want, go for it! The sooner you get started the sooner things will come to fruition for you. xx